Should I tell the new woman in my husband's life about his infidelity?
Written by admin on February 28, 2009 – 8:46 am -I left my husband because of his infidelity. He has moved on to another woman telling her untruths about himself. He has not mentioned to this new sweet lady he is still married to me. I think she should know about this.
oh yes mam would i ever tell her.
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By Bella on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
You're just going to make him angry. Be careful.
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By kd_lifer on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
No. He is not your problem any more – be happy
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By Nicole on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
It's best to just stay out of it ( unless you are fighting for your marriage back, then that is a different story). If you are truely done with this marriage and you left him for good, just stop letting him affect you. Nothing good can come from telling her about his infidelity, she will learn soon enough. And who knows what lies he has told her about you. I would just move on.
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By lost on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
tell her it would serve him right
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By MEGAMI on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
DO YOU WILL
WHATEVER WILL LET YOU REST AT NIGHT
IF YOU WARN HER AND SHE REFUSES TO ACCEPT IT DON'T TRY TO RAM THE TRUTH DOWN HER THROAT IT'LL BE UP TO HER TO FIGURE EVERYTHING OUT FROM THERE.
FIND MORE JOY IN KNOWING THAT CHAPTER FOR YOU HAS COME TO PASS
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By Stoner Girl on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
I would stay out of it. If you do get involved in it, you'll seem like a bitter ex just trying to cause trouble.
I know you are probably just looking to protect this new woman from the hurt you endured, but if you get in the middle of their relationship, you'll be the one that comes across bad, not him.
But, because I know how us women are, *if* you do feel the need to tell her things, ONLY tell her you are still his wife. Call his place and if she picks up, tell her it's his wife calling. Then don't say anything more, that should do plenty to open her eyes.
Good luck
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By dizzyme124 on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
Absolutely not. First of all, she probably wouldn't believe you and you would be seen as the meddling ex. Second, you may not have cheated, but you weren't perfect and i doubt you would want hubby telling your new mates about your issues. If she asks, don't lie, but i definitely would not seek her out to tell her. Every woman is entitled to make her own mistakes.
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By ♥Sabre♥ on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
Why should you care what he does now that you aren't together.
Let her figure it out for herself – he will probably just mess it up with her too let hium get himself out of that mess it is none of your business.
he is out of your life – so you should stay out of his love life
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By margie k on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
Why not just leave it alone ? after all, you have moved on…. or have you ??
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By Jacklyn W on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
he will get what he deserves. CARMA!! but i wouldnt go looking for trouble. Get a divorce and move on with your life… you deserve it!
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By Girliegirl on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
This is an easy one. File for divorce, move on, and then you don't have to worry about his love life anymore…
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By curious on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
Of course not. It's none of your damned business — and never has been.
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Experience.
By answer machine on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
No, she'll find out on her own. I would just stay out of their business, and get on with your life.
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By Mr. Magoo on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
I recommend you stay out of it. Your meddling won't be appreciated and people need to make their own mistakes or they will never learn anything.
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By walterskinner8 on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
NO. Let her find out what a jewel she picked the hard way.
She didn't have a problem when he was cheating on you. Why should you care if he does it to her?
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By lions on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
oh yes mam would i ever tell her.
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By Michele B on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
it's up to him to tell her…if you tell her she'll just resent you and think you want him back or something
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By oracleofohio on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
What are you going to do, follow him around the rest of his life warning women? I think you should post it on the website that exists for things like this (I think a great idea tho I can't remember the site name) and then let it go. If she sees it (or future women) she does, if not, you've done what you could to warn the world..
After that, drop it and go live a happy life
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By luvtochasecows on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
She'll find out, and then she'll know everything he said was a lie. Just let it alone.
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By Yuki B on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
She'll find out without you interfering…believe me, she will! Sadly, it's probably going to be the hard way, but I don't think that it should come from you.
First….you're "the ex". How likely do you really think she will be to believe something you say about her new man? She's blinded by love right now. She'll just call you a liar, tell your ex, and start drama. Then she'll be even more resistant to anyone telling her the truth about her new boyfriend in the future.
I think that you should let it come from another source. You caught him…she will too, and so will the next one and the next one. The new girlfriend will stop being dumb soon enough.
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By Magic 8 Ball MEAN BALL on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
No. One day, she may come to you and ask you about him. Then you can tell the truth. To go to her would seem like you are bitter ofer the breakup. If she is smart, she'll figure him out before long.
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By bandaid_46 on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
What are your motivations? Just to be mean? Or to do a great service to the sweet lady?
Are you planning on remaining married to him?
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By baby GIRL #1 due june 25.08! on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
if he is your husband he should be having a girlfriend.
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By Gourmet Flossie on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
No – because by doing that shows that he is still hurting you and thats what he wants. Dont give him the satisfaction, what he does now is no longer your business.
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By Fefe on Feb 28, 2009 | Reply
she will find out soon enough, believe me. my ex husband did the same thing before our divorce and it fell around him. she probably would make her own excuses for him anyway.
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By carol on Mar 1, 2009 | Reply
People live and learn in this this life and I am sure when he does it to her she will understand his lesson well. Right now she is probably way to in to him to heed your warning and may not care that he is still married so let her deal with it's outcome.
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By Randie on Mar 1, 2009 | Reply
did they meet at work?
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